THE PERKS OF PATIENCE

Estos últimos años han sido particulares por muchos motivos. Creo que algunas de las cosas que me siguen emocionando genuinamente en tiempos turbulentos es ver a mis plantas crecer. Creo que las flores y las plantas me han enseñando mucho sobre la paciencia./ These last few years have been particular for many reasons. I think some of the things that genuinely excite me in turbulent times is watching my plants grow. I’d say flowers and plants have taught me a lot about patience.

When was the last time that your patience was tested? ⏳

¿Cuándo fue la última vez que tu paciencia fue puesta a prueba? Me da vergüenza admitir que me he puesto nervioso por un video de Youtube que se tarda en cargar o si la fila de la cafetería avanza con lentitud. A veces me avergüenzo de lo rápido que se puede perder la compostura ante pequeños detalles./ When was the last time your patience was tested? I’m embarrassed to admit that I’ve been nervous about a YouTube video taking a long time to load or if the line at the cafeteria is moving too slow. Sometimes I am ashamed of how quickly I can lose composure over small details.

Se nos ha acostumbrado a tener resultados inmediatos, sobre todo con la vorágine de los contenidos en redes sociales que ha creado la expectativa de la inmediatez. Esto se convierte en un espejismo de expectativas que resultan en frustración: rindiéndote demasiado rápido si quieres tener un cuerpo más tonificado, un avance en tu carrera o volviéndote mejor en tu hobby favorito. Al final todo conlleva práctica y la paciencia es tal vez una virtud mucho más útil que cualquier talento./ We have become accustomed to having immediate results, specially with the whirlwind of content on social media that has created the expectation of immediacy. This becomes a mirage of expectations that result in frustration: giving up too quickly if you want a more toned body, a career advancement, or getting better at your favorite hobby. In the end, everything takes practice and patience is perhaps a much more useful virtue than any talent.

💣 BUILD NEW HABITS 💣

La paciencia tiene un secreto: la costumbre, y seguramente has escuchado que se puede formar un nuevo hábito en 21 días. Y es que no nacemos pacientes, de bebés lloramos y necesitamos satisfacer esa necesidad de comer urgentemente, poco a poco aprendemos que tarde o temprano llegará el biberón: seguiremos impacientes, pero con el tiempo lloraremos menos./ Patience has a secret: the habit, and you’ve probably heard that a new habit can be formed in 21 days. But we are not born patient, as babies we cry and we need to satisfy that urge to eat immediately, but little by little we learn that sooner or later the bottle will arrive: we’ll still be impatient, but over time we’ll cry a bit less.

A la paciencia hay que entrenarla, pero supongo nos es complicado porque la espera significa incertidumbre y descontrol. Las películas sólo muestran cuando el protagonista de la historia se mueve a la ciudad y no hay ni siquiera una dificultad para conseguir un apartamento, y ya no digamos una carrera exitosa (o lo que Hollywood ha definido por exitoso) en un lapso de 2 horas./ Patience must be trained, but I suppose it is difficult for us because waiting means uncertainty and lack of control. Movies only show us when the main character moves to the city and there is not even a difficulty in getting an apartment and the struggles to get a successful career (or what Hollywood has definen as successful) takes less than 2 hours.

⏰ TRAIN PATIENCE ⏰

Un estudio de The Journal of Positive Psychology del 2002 muestra que la paciencia es un rasgo que si se puede modificar y aconseja precisamente, ver a la paciencia como a una planta. Para entrenar a la paciencia hay que identificar que factores disparan nuestra inquietud y cuales nos protegen ante la incertidumbre. Así mismo el estudio dice que la paciencia no es resignación ni falta de compromiso, al contrario, esperar con calma es una revelación contra lo desconocido, fijando la mirada en un objetivo a largo plazo./ A study of The Journal of Positive Psychology del 2002 shows that patience is a trait that can be modified and it is precisely advisable to see patience as a plant. To train patience, we must identify which factors trigger our concern and which ones protect us from uncertainty. Likewise, the study says that patience is not resignation or lack of commitment, on the contrary, waiting calmly is a revelation against the unknown, fixing our eyes on a long-term goal.

Otros consejos para practicar la paciencia es concentrarse en pequeñas tareas para lograr ese objetivo grande, a mi me funciona fijar mis objetivos por meses y partir esa tarea grande en otras más pequeñas que se irán haciendo durante semanas, cada día ir haciendo algo./ Other tips to practice patience is to focus on small tasks to achieve that big goal, it works for me to set my goals for months and split that big task into smaller ones that will be done by weeks, trying to do something small every day.

Las plantas y la jardinería me recuerdan que está bien si no todo sale tan rápido. En mi caso personal han sido una buena manera de practicar la paciencia ya que el progreso muchas veces ni se nota, pero los primeros signos de una nueva hoja siempre son un pequeño recordatorio de que las cosas buenas vienen para aquellos que esperan./ Plants and gardening remind me that it’s okay if everything is not going that fast. In my personal case they have been a good way to practice patience since progress is often not noticeable, but the first signs of a new leaf are always a small reminder that good things are coming for those who wait.

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  • I’m rather good with patience in day to day life, but I’m terrible when it comes to the big things in life. Like, I want the money NOW, I want that apt NOW, I want the opportunity NOW. So that’s something I need to work on. But as for waiting in a line or waiting for someone to get ready, I just go on Pinterest or I just go through some positive affirmations/meditations. Like refocusing or thinking about stuff I’m grateful about, and without knowing it; the thing I’m waiting for is done. It’s a really cool thing to be able to control your thoughts/mind and take off focus of what annoys you. Haha I just need to practice that in a bigger scale too! Have a lovely weekend Pablo! Xx

    • Hello Mia, thanks for sharing with me the way you see patience in your daily life!

      Sometimes I am just like you when it comes to the daily tasks, so I need to practice the way I am seeing things in the long term, same as you! haha

  • Hey Pablo, how’s going? Are you enjoying these last days of summer? I hope so!
    We are all under Green pass law here (luckily I’ve got it), so it seems realtively safe to go out and enjoy a dinner or a movie, but honesty I still don’t feel so sure to full enjoy a situation with many people… Guess I’ll exploit the last warm days at the pool and playing tennis with my dad, here at home.

    But passing at the topic of the day: this is really surprised me on one side, and make me think on how it’s true on the other.
    To me that I’m the almost patience-less kind of person, this probably was the most important thing I’ve learnt from these last 2 years: and I’ve realized it just while reading your post!^^
    In fact, despite being a totally impulsive and impatient person, I am very disciplined thanx to all the years of sports that I did, and that, in part, have compensated my lack of patience in many situations, but in this particular moment of pandemic I could go crazy if I didn’t somehow found some trick that helped me.
    In particular gardening and doing yoga helepd me a lot in this side, keeping me busy while learning patience, little by little.
    What you wrote here is sooo true and real, and guess helpful for many in many ways: traing is really the key, even for patience!

    Great post Pablo, brilliant and useful, as you usually do!
    Take care and have a great week end!
    XO
    S
    https://s-fashion-avenue.blogspot.com/

    • Hola Silvia, thanks for your lovely comment and for sharing your experience with me 🙂

      I hope you enjoyed the last summer days, I was able to take a trip to Zaragoza (very close to Barcelona) and it was really nice to disconnect from a little bit).

      I think sports really showed you that good things come to those who wait and to those who work hard daily! I feel that illustrations and drawings also showed me that and thanks to my hobbies I am a little more patient on the day to day 🙂

      Have a pleasant Sunday and a happy fall, dear! ❤️

  • You are lucky you are able to successfully garden – I have tried multiple times to grow a vegetable patch but success is always temporary, haha! 🙂

    I think it is important to be patient – having kids certainly tests but teaches you patience too, haha! Sometimes you have to be patient and let them try and do things themselves.

    Hope you are having a good weekend! It’s another busy but fun one here 🙂

    • Hello Mica,thank you so much as usual for stopping by and sharing your opinion with me!

      I imagine kids really teach you to be a bit patient haha!

  • Hey Fungi!

    How are you? Thank you for sharing your great post about patience! You are true! In particular, I really love the last sentence:) Yes, plants enable us to realize. It is so difficult for me to keep practice, but your article is motivating! I need to split my big task into more smaller.

    Your decoration works are so fantastic! Two Anthurium with your hands are lovely:)

    akiko
    https://kimonosnack.blogspot.com

    • Hello Akiko!

      Thank you for checking this out and for finding motivation in this article!

      Happy to know you loved the anthuriums too, these are some of my favorite flowers 🙂

  • Yes, patience is a very important quality to have. Everything worth doing and worth learning about is hard and requires patience. You need patience to be able to do art, sports, meaningful work of any kind- for anything worth doing one needs patience. A surgeon needs patience to operate, a patients needs patience to get better, a nurse needs patience to be the care-giver. Following instructions takes patience but so giving them. Without the virtue of patience, we will never achieve anything. At the same time, we (as humans) are often not aware of how important patience is. We often take things for granted. I’m sure that sometimes I’m guilty of this. I tend to loose patience when something doesn’t go as planned or how I imagined it. It’s something I need to work. In some things I’m very patient. I don’t mind spending a long time learning something and I understand that patience is important for mastering any skill. However, sometimes I give up on some plans because of lack of patience. I think we can all work on figuring in what areas of our life patience is needed.
    I loved your tips about caring for plants and flowers . I do agree that gardening and caring for plants can help us be more patient. Your metaphors about patience and plants are spot on. I also enjoyed your photography composition a lot. You did great compositions with the fruits. I love that photo of you in a bicolour shirt and with flowers in different colours…a very artistic and appealing photo. You have a great eye for photography.
    Happy weekend!

    • Hello Ivana, thank you so much for stopping by ❤️

      As you well said, everything worth requieres a bit of patience and nothing good comes overnight. Time is probably and elastic term but when you want something you have to wait and work hard in order to achieve it.

      Thanks also for pointing out many examples, you made me realized that we are lucky or that I am lucky in many senses, specially when it comes to health 🙂

      Have a fantastic fall ahead!

    • Hello Ivana, thank you so much for stopping by ❤️

      As you well said, everything worth requieres a bit of patience and nothing good comes overnight. Time is probably and elastic term but when you want something you have to wait and work hard in order to achieve it.

      Thanks also for pointing out many examples, you made me realized that we are lucky or that I am lucky in many senses, specially when it comes to health 🙂

      Have a fantastic fall ahead! 🙂

  • Yes, patience is a very important quality to have. Everything worth doing and worth learning about is hard and requires patience. You need patience to be able to do art, sports, meaningful work of any kind- for anything worth doing one needs patience. A surgeon needs patience to operate, a patients needs patience to get better, a nurse needs patience to be the care-giver. Following instructions takes patience but so giving them. Without the virtue of patience, we will never achieve anything. At the same time, we (as humans) are often not aware of how important patience is. We often take things for granted. I’m sure that sometimes I’m guilty of this. I tend to loose patience when something doesn’t go as planned or how I imagined it. It’s something I need to work. In some things I’m very patient. I don’t mind spending a long time learning something and I understand that patience is important for mastering any skill. However, sometimes I give up on some plans because of lack of patience. I think we can all work on figuring in what areas of our life patience is needed.
    I loved your tips about caring for plants and flowers . I do agree that gardening and caring for plants can help us be more patient. Your metaphors about patience and plants are spot on. I also enjoyed your photography composition a lot. You did great compositions with the fruits. I love that photo of you in a bicolour shirt and with flowers in different colours…a very artistic and appealing photo. You have a great eye for photography.
    Happy weekend! Enjoy your day.

  • You’re totally reading my mind in this article Pablo.
    Just like you I feel like nowadays everything has to go fast, way too fast.
    Even me sometimes if the wait is too long I’m gonna take my phone and scrool my Instagram feed and all the times I think «how we’re doing before.. we were just waiting».
    I really love the notion of the slow life, taking the time to enjoy all the littles things and I think it’s also the reason why I prefer blogging as instagram. I feel this way you can just enjoy more by focusing in one topic than seeing a lot of images in a minute.
    And I love the way you’re talking about how plants inspire you in this article. It’s beautiful and true. «Tout vient à point nommé» is a French expression and I don’t know if you have a similar one in English. It always remind me of the fable of the turtle and the rabbit.
    xx
    Margot
    https://troughthepasturesofthesky.com

    • Hey Margot, I hope you’re doing great!

      Exactly, nowadays everything is going at the speed of light and there’s no time to digest all the information that appears (specially on social media).

      I’m currently trying to avoid all the stimuli, specially before sleeping or during specificc hours of the weekend and going for analog hobbies that can calm me down or reconnect with other aspects of my life 🙂

  • Last time my patience was tested was around my dogs. I have 3, and they’re quite a handful! It’s always a lesson to be patient because they don’t understand what you’re talking about, and it never pays off when you lose it with them. Great post!

  • Oh I can tell the last time I lost my patience it was a little over 24 hours ago. I finally had enough of a coworker that likes to harass me. I finally had enough. This was a long time coming. But I agree one should not lose patience with the small things. You offer great advice here and love these photos!!

    Allie of
    http://www.allienyc.com

  • Hola Pablo!

    Me ha encantado el post, estoy 100 por 100 de acuerdo contigo en que las redes sociales y la sociedad en general nos ha acostumbrado a ser impacientes. Por ejemplo, ahora muchos servicios de entrega de paquetes te dejan elegir la opción express para recibir la compra en ese mismo día. Hay gente que escoge esa opción aunque hayan comprado una camiseta y no la necesiten para ese día, pero no les gusta esperar.

    Lo de ver crecer la planta me resultaría duro, me considero bastante impaciente jajaja aunque sí que practico la misma técnica que tú e intento dividir las tareas gordas en otras más pequeñas para que parezca que tengo menos trabajo (engaño a mi cerebro, básicamente)

    Me alegro de que la jardinería te haya ayudado a cultivar la paciencia

    Un beso enorme desde sophisticatedmeblog

    • Sofía, mil gracias por pasarte a visitar, me ha hecho mucha ilusión verte por aquí de nuevo 🙂

      Es verdad, esas opciones de verdad me abruman, o pedirse hasta unos calcetines por Glovo…. ya cambiando de tema, no sé si el planeta pueda soportar ese ritmo tan acelerado 🙁

      Pero sí, engañar al cerebro partiendo las tareas grandes en otras más pequeñas es algo que yo también hago mucho, pero funciona…. y funciona no solo para engañar al cerebro, también para que se te haga menos difícil la vida jaja!

      Un beso enorme de vuelta!

  • It is almost this article was written for me! Lately my frustration of not getting things done fast enough has taken its tow on me. The feeling of when and why it is taking so long is overwhelming and difficult to understand. Thank goodness to resilience and optimism because otherwise not many of us would be able to cope. You are very right in every point you made here. Thanks a million! Cris

    http://www.photosbycris.com.au/?p=14786

  • Hola Pablo! 😀

    What a beautiful post. I genuinely missed reading your articles, so am very happy to be back! You know you and I are astrological twins haha, so I can relate 100% to everything you’ve described here. I can be so impatient at times, it actually becomes a problem. We are so used to the World moving quickly, if we don’t get that instant response or gratification even, we let our frustration take control. I think it is even worse with all things related to personal life and relationships, if we don’t get that text back right away, we immediately assume the worst (and in the end – the only ones suffering are us).

    Gardening is a thoughtful metaphor, that I should remind myself more of. Trees don’t rush, flowers don’t rush and yet they turn into something special as they take their sweet time to properly grow and develop. Thanks for this mental reminder! It is what I needed to see today xx

    P.S. can we talk about your stunning photography here?!

    Naya
    http://www.nayatilly.com

    • Hey Naya,

      So happy to see you here once again and thank you so much for your good vibes

      As you well said that instant response or gratification can’t bring nothing but frustation if we don’t learn how to appreciate that good things come to those who wait! Also the fact that this impatient world is damaging the way we comunicate with others (the immediate response on social media, whatsapp, mails, etc):

      Thanks again for your comment, it made me think about a lot of things 🙂
      Pablo

  • I have definitely found myself struggling with impatience in this digital world. We expect immediate results, but oftentimes, they’re not always attainable and in many cases, if we just let go, they’re unneccesary. I need to get better at goal setting to practice patience!

    Jill
    https://jilliancecilia.com/